How to Navigate Family Judgment or Push-back as an Odinani Practitioner
Starting or deepening your journey as an Odinani practitioner can be deeply fulfilling, but it can sometimes come with a unique set of challenges—especially when it comes to family. For many, family is the first and most important social unit, but it can also be the source of significant pushback when you choose a spiritual path that diverges from theirs. If you’ve ever faced criticism, judgment, or outright rejection because of your Odinani practice, know that you’re not alone. Here’s a guide to help you navigate this tricky terrain with grace and to the best of your ability.
Start With Compassionate Conversations
For many families, pushback stems from a place of fear, misunderstanding, or even love. They may worry you’re abandoning their idea of “truth” or feel uneasy because they don’t understand Odinani. Instead of reacting defensively, take the time to educate them.
Explain that Odinani isn’t about rejecting other belief systems—it’s about accepting your identity, reconnecting with your roots, and aligning with universal truths. Share your personal reasons for your practice. Many times, fear dissolves when understanding begins to take form.
Respect Their Beliefs While Standing Firm in Yours
You don’t have to win every argument or convince anyone to join you on your path. Odinani has to do with about alignment with your Chi—personal spirit and destiny, it’s not about imposing your beliefs on others. Acknowledge their concerns respectfully but set clear boundaries.
For example, you might say:
“I understand you see things differently, and I respect your beliefs. I just ask that you respect my choice to explore and practice Odinani.”
This balance may allow you to stay grounded in your truth while honoring theirs.
Focus on Living Your Practice, Not Just Talking About It
One of the most effective ways to handle judgment is by showing, not just telling, the value of your practice. When family members see the positive changes Odinani brings to your life—calmness, focus, gratitude, and a strong sense of purpose—they may begin to soften their stance.
Rather than engaging in heated debates, let your life and demeanor become the evidence of your spiritual growth.
Learn to Manage Criticism Without Internalizing It
Not every family member will come around, and that’s okay. You must learn to manage criticism without allowing it to derail your practice. Remind yourself that their judgment isn’t a reflection of your worth or your spiritual path—it’s mostly like instead a reflection of their own fears and conditioning.
Develop emotional resilience through practices like meditation, grounding rituals, and maintaining an ongoing dialogue with your Chi. When you align yourself with your spiritual energies, external opinions lose their power to shake you.
Find or Build a Supportive Community
If you’re receiving pushback from family, having a supportive community of like-minded people can be a game-changer. Surround yourself with others who practice Odinani or have a deep respect for indigenous spirituality.
Having people who understand your experiences can provide the encouragement and guidance you need to stay consistent in your practice, especially during difficult times.
Keep in Mind: It’s Okay to Outgrow Expectations
For many of us, family expectations are deeply ingrained. You may feel pressure to conform, to avoid rocking the boat, or to stay “acceptable” in their eyes. However, spiritual growth mostly requires outgrowing limiting beliefs and outdated expectations.
This doesn’t mean abandoning your family; it means evolving into the version of yourself that aligns with your destiny. And sometimes, that means lovingly stepping away from certain dynamics.
Honor Your Ancestors and Roots, Even If They Don’t Understand
A powerful aspect of Odinani is ancestral reverence. Remember, your spiritual practice connects you not only to your immediate family but to generations of ancestors who came before you. Even if your living relatives don’t understand or approve, know that your ascended ancestors are cheering you on.
Call upon them for strength, clarity, and guidance when you face judgment. Their presence will remind you that your path is valid and supported by forces far greater than those who misunderstand you.
Stay Patient and Hopeful
People are more likely to resist what they don’t understand, it’s simply human nature, but perspectives can change over time. As you continue to live authentically and align yourself with your purpose, your family may begin to see the beauty and depth of your path. Be patient with them, just as you are patient with yourself on your spiritual journey.
To Sum It Up—Trust Your Path
Odinani teaches us about life on earth, the importance of natural harmony, and the power of alignment with our Chi. While it can be painful to face judgment from family, remember that this is your journey, not theirs.
Stay true to your practice, honor your roots, and let your actions speak louder than words. In time, you’ll find peace in knowing that your path is uniquely yours—and no one can take that from you. May your journey be blessed and filled with clarity. Yagazie!
Special shout out to Sophia Bolden for raising the question that inspired this post.
